Lessons Lost

There is always talk of what lessons can we learn from tragedies like the Boston Marathon bombing. There is also talk about what we can do to make ourselves safer. I think that these questions are not bad but I do believe that we try and answer them at the wrong time. We let emotion rule our decisions. We have felt fear, anger, and pain that we understandably never want to feel again. But I think we don’t try and see how much we loose when we ask for safety. We willingly give away freedoms so that we can gain a false sense of safety. If you think about the days that we as a nation have been part of the world and compare that too the number of times we have had a terrorist event. If you run the numbers the actual chances that you would be killed in an attack are slim. I have even heard of a study that says that you are more likely to get killed in a police shooting than a terror attack.

As I have never had to feel first hand the emotions that come from being so close to such events I cannot speak from experience but why could I not speak. I am a citizen and I am affected by the rules and laws that are created after things like Boston and 9/11. I do not enjoy the feeling of being treated like a criminal just for a false sense of safety. I am not talking about small rules made for safety. I work at a theatre and we have rules that prevent people from going places that are dangerous. So I can understand things like airlines locking the cockpit door and only allowing in authorized personnel. I would have actually figured that would have been a rule after the 70’s but who am I.

What I’m talking about when I say that we’re being treated like criminals. I mean things like the random pat downs at airports. The multiple cameras that we are putting into our city centers. The multiple metal detectors that are being put up in  The question that I always will ask is, has any of these things helped actually stop any crime that could have been stopped by using the means we had before new rules where implemented. The problem is that we never really get the statistics on the effectiveness of the laws. I want to know because it is our job to make sure that the government isn’t overstepping their bounds. Recently we have been taking government employees at their word more than we should have to. Again the reason is public safety. I would rather die free than live in a world where I have to prove that I am not a criminal and where I have to prove that I am worthy of that kind of information. Don’t forget that the government is actually supposed to work for us, the people.

So, the lesson is that we need to decide if we want to be free or safe. We can be vigilant and we can be proactive but we don’t have to go to excess. I think that the greatest question that is asked that we need to answer is why? Once we can answer why then we can figure out how to stop these type  things. And sadly as we keep seeing there will always be someone willing to do horrible things. It seems bad to end on something like that but take comfort in how everyone has come together and there still are so many more who have a high respect for human life. We will come together.

I apologize for the disjointed nature of this post but as I said before this is a difficult subject to write on. Thank you for reading.

It is difficult

I will make this short and sweet. I am trying to make a post on my feelings about what happened in Boston I have been spending a few days now trying to find the right words and they are not coming. While trying to figure out what to say I do realize that I will probably piss someone off. I am grateful for all the readers that I have and I hope you will give me this extra week. Thank you again.

Things I won’t cover

I’ve been recently thinking more about the types of topics as I search for things to write about. I’ve been seeing things that are being covered in the news that seem to be getting a lot of views. The problem is, while getting views is part of the way to make this a career, I don’t want to just hit topics that are popular. I have a hard time seeing people complaining that something shouldn’t be covered while, in a way, still covering the topic. So I have no plan to put things on here that are about the stupidity of celebrities. There will be celebrities covered on here but they will generally be the ones I respect. I will be critical of them and I will be critical of anyone that I cover on here.

The main thing I find that I want to cover is things that affect everyone. I will never speak for others; I will always try and make it my own opinion. I am not one able to speak for others but I am able to give my perspective. Sadly we have seen tragedy even today. There is something to be said about it and I am sure there will be a lot said about it. I am probably going to write about the aftermath but today I am just sad that we are going through such things. There are lessons to learn from such things but that if for another day. Thank you for reading.

The Mood For Writing

As I continue on this little endeavor, I keep running into something that still seems to occasionally give me problems. I am still having to fight my mind. I’ve been working on a couple of other posts but as I edit them they seem like filler posts. Posts that I am writing  just to fill space or meet a deadline. I do not want to ever allow myself to make posts that are just there to fulfill an obligation. I have been finding it harder this week to write because I have started to feel that same damned depression that I have posted about before.

I realize that I should talk to someone about it but while I want to I can’t afford a professional nor do I want to bother my family with my problems. In the grand scheme of things, what is going on with me is minimal to what they are having to deal with at this moment. As I love them I find it hard to expect them to listen to me while they are dealing with a much more devastating issue. I hope this will pass so I can get back to doing something I very much enjoy. It has never been that I don’t want to write. I still love writing and still wish it to be my career but I find it difficult to come up with topics. I thank you again for continuing to read this blog. I hope to have something great next week. I will just say the one cliche line to anyone else that may be feeling as I do at this moment:

It gets better.

For Everyone or No One

I am about to touch on a subject that is part of what I’ve heard called “the third rail of blogging”. I guess any social issue is a kind of third rail but this one is pretty bad, apparently. So, here goes. I’ve been watching the “debate” over same sex marriage. I know the reasons why people don’t want it but I have never understood those reasons. I’ve never really understood the Christian argument against same sex marriage. Especially given the other ideals that they say is part of their religion. Of course I can never understand anyone that tries to deny someone the basic human right to be happy in their life.

Since I am not a religious scholar I will not go into that. I may one day try and explain my understanding of the argument. It will be based on my conversations with Christians but on this post I am going to explain my own feelings on same sex marriage. Simply put I do not care. Well I don’t care who someone wants to marry. I do care that it is currently illegal in many states for someone to make that decision for themselves. There is no good reason to tell anyone that they cann’t avail themselves of government programs for married people.

There is one religious saying that I can see using as a life rule. It is the Wiccan Rede. “And it harm none, do what thou wilt”. While I don’t believe in any of the aspects of Wicca, I can at least see saying being a good way to think of the whole argument. I have no will to take anybodies ability to make a decision from them unless it enters the public sphere. Only when it enters the public sphere can we begin to discuss what is allowed. And in my opinion there is a very small list of things that I think should be illegal.

Who someone loves or has sex with doesn’t, except in very rare occasions, enter the public sphere. Someone marrying someone also doesn’t enter the public sphere. Since it doesn’t enter that sphere I have no reason to know about it nor do I have any reason why it should affect my life. This was a bit of a disjointed opinion but it is hard to go into greater detail on the opinion of “it doesn’t effect me so I don’t care”.

I’ve heard a quote that sums this up well. It is a quote from Michael Goudeau, from Penn’s Sunday School. And a number of other projects.

There’s nothing more interesting to me than my sex life but there’s really nothing less interesting to me than yours.

I may have gotten that wrong but what I am trying to say is that I will never why people care enough to keep it from happening.